Ever since starting my blog, I’ve been committed to being real, honest and open with my followers. As much as I love perfect social media photos with matching outfits and all, my life is anything but perfect. I think I have done a pretty good job of sharing a lot of my tumultuous year with the world, in hopes of inspiring others that you can make it through the storm. I also realize that there are parts of my life I have purposely kept private with my children always top of my mind. One of those things is my dating life. I haven’t yet blogged about dating since separating from my husband of 14 years, but I’m going to start.
When you leave a relationship of that length and are suddenly free and single, there are lots of emotions that hit you hard. For me, I tried hard to make as many plans with as many different people as I could, to simply get my mind off all the heart-ache and pain. It wasn’t as easy as you think it would be, considering we were in the middle of quarantine and a global pandemic. However, I did manage to make quite a bit of plans in the Spring and Summer and had some fun and interesting times out. I had friends who were super supportive and wanted to take me out for drinks and meals and make fun memories together. They listened to me when I needed a friend. I also had friends who turned their backs on me and were too upset with my divorce to want to continue a relationship. (That will be a whole separate post on its own ). I navigated myself on how to deal with haters. I met new people, went to parties, hung out in groups of friends and I even joined a dating app.
What I wasn’t expecting was to meet someone so special and fall in love just like I did. I specifically told myself I would only casually date people and I wouldn’t get into a relationship. Of course, when you live your life full of rules, surprises tend to pop up and throw you for a complete loop in your own path you tried so hard to design. I finally stopped fighting what I knew was so good for me, and I started truly enjoying each and every moment.
I met Douglas at a funeral of a dear mutual friend, and we instatntly started a friendship. We began discussing a potential business idea and he is the one who has helped Live Lean come to life. He is the brains behind all of my marketing and design and has helped me make my business dreams come true. I never expected that what we would build would go way beyond a business.
I am so unbelievably happy, content, and at peace. I never knew that this kind of love existed. We really do make each other better. We truly challenge one another and have been successful at balancing our time working together and playing together. Ever since meeting him, I have been living in the moment. That is not something I can say I use to do on a regular basis. I am honestly enjoying each and every minute we are together and I have also learned how to be a more relaxed, less-anxious person. (blog on that topic coming too! )
Our relationship works and it always has. We dream together, work together, travel together, laugh together, and we’ve got one another’s back no matter what. If you would have told me a year ago that I would find a love like this, I would have laughed in your face. I wasn’t in a good place and I wasn’t open to new adventures. It’s easy to get stuck in your daily routine or your current relationship and accept the unhappiness. I’m here to tell you that there is SO much more out there if you feel like that. You deserve happiness. We all do. You can CHOOSE happiness.