Co-parenting. A term I never imagined I would be using, but is now a part of my daily life and thoughts. I am very fortunate to have an ex-husband who is super engaged with the girls and an amazing Father. We are on the same page with morals, values, and how we want to raise our daughters. With everything from diet, religion, discipline, you name it, we see eye to eye on just about everything where the girls are concerned. I know not everyone is lucky in that regard, but I also think communication is key. It’s not easy to be in constant communication with your ex, but it makes for a great co-parenting team. It won’t work for everyone based on how your relationship ended and the circumstances, but if you can try to remember what your end goal is and communicate that effictively to your ex, that’s all you can do. It certainly is challenging, and we are still figuring it out, but I have a great feeling about everything. At the end of the day, we want our daughters to be happy and see two parents who get along and don’t fight in front of them.
One of the hardest things we have ever done is also one of the things I am most proud of. After we decided to get divorced and started living separate lives, we made the tough decision to go on vacation together as a family of 5. Our daughters had so much taken away from them with Covid and quarantine, and we wanted to let them enjoy one last vacation together since it was already planned and on the calendar. It was NOT easy, but we made it work and we gave the girls some happy memories on a beautiful beach.